Why do you want to date or be in a relationship? What drives people generally to seek romantic relationships? Please help me understand. 

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im never really seeking it, it just sort of happens if i make a friend and realize im attracted to them. by attraction i mean something deeper than on a physical level... a person's charm or way of being. something instinctual? then there's a feeling of longing + wanting to spend a lot of time around that person. it feels a little shallow or unfounded, having "attraction" be the main reason to want a relationship, but i think i seek a lot of the same things in friendship connections that i do in a romantic relationship, so that's just what stands out to me as being different than any other friendship. 

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evolution, socialization, loneliness, boredom, and when you've exhausted all those, love

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i feel like i can focus more on my life if i'm having sex once a week